Sincerely speaking, asking for help isn't my strong skill. If not for anything else, I had asking for anything. So in this regard, help is a no go area for me.
I'm learning how to ask for it now, but still learning means it's still going take a lot of time for it to stick to me to ask for help.
I have my great deal of turmoils to think of adding it to another person's, it's quite a lot. I'm not saying you shouldn't ask for help, you can but the right way, of course!
Everyone loves asking for help but none wants to be asked for help! There are bazillion of people around the world who believe in 'blessed is the hand that give than the one that takes' and yet, never believe in being the giver rather than being the receiver.
Now tell me, if everyone believes in receiving, who then - would you say or would rather choose - to be giver? Many to none of you all will quickly run to the receiving side, leaving a good little to few persons to be the givers.
Now come to think of it, how many people -would you believe - to remain in the giving side -even though there are a few of them - when they're constantly being drained by the good many number of people who won't support them, even a little? How many will continue giving, when they are in dire need themselves to continue giving when no one give them back?
But I say thank you, yeah that's good but what will thank you do for the person giving you? Will it give the more money in their accounts, or more patience to continue with your constant, never ending asking?
Yeah, now we have a little to no one left in the giving side. Look people won't value you if you don't value yourself.
It's good to give, I love giving whenever I have. But that drains me out and a lot of times, puts me in trouble, period!
How much if the trouble do you think that the people that I give to would actually give me back? Okay to answer this question, let go look at some categories of receivers.
The first category of receivers, are those who genuinely are in need, no strings attached. They will come to you because they know you can be of some assistance to them, so they come and ask and are in the knowing that you may or may not give. And they are okay with it. And they don't frequent your house because they know you also have your own problems to deal with.
The second of receivers are those who also are in dire need and thinks that you must give them assistance whether you have it at that moment or not. They frequent your house because they think you are their source of help at all times.
The third category of receivers are those who would think they might be in need in no distance time so they think you should help them now so they can know if you would have them when that time comes. It's sure not a blackmail! You're house is their safe haven of course!
The fourth category of receivers are those wants to test you. I really don't know their problem with testing people only if they know that that's a terrible thing to do to anyone.
The last category of receivers are those who have a handle of people to gist with about who gives who and why and how and when they give. Call it the gossip centre, still your problem as long as they have someone to give them for them to have some THING to contribute in that circle of people who have many THINGS to contribute so they don't fell less. Also this category of receivers are those who are the new comers in a high societal status group who needs more than what they can afford to keep their positions as members in such groups. They are the insecure ones who needs others to make them invincible and strong. You're house is their second house, darling.
So please I ask again, how many of you will still remain givers? To which of the categories will you do so? And why?