I chose this topic because any one of us could find ourselves in these situations—and far too often, we don't know where to turn for help.
They Are Me, which explores gender-based violence, seeks to show that any woman—whether a survivor or a victim—could be one of these stories. This is a profoundly sensitive subject, as it touches on the abuse many women suffer at the hands of their partners. It's not just about physical violence; it includes beatings, humiliation, degradation, intimidation, and abuse in all its forms. Each of these acts strips us of our dignity and integrity as women.
Several reasons compelled me to write this book. First, the harrowing experience of Lorena Gallo, the former wife of John Bobbitt, whose prolonged suffering pushed her to make the drastic decision to mutilate her abuser. Second, the powerful lyrics of Ricardo Williams—especially in his song Arenas movedizas ("Shifting Sands")—and Gloria Trevi's Ellas soy yo ("They Are Me"). And finally, the alarming and ever-increasing rate of femicides, which must be stopped.
This book is also tied to November 25th, the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. Through these pages, I hope to offer strength to women who are living this nightmare—to help them find the courage to free themselves from situations that can no longer be called "life." I know it's easier said than done, and I acknowledge that, not having lived through this myself, I cannot fully understand their pain. But as a woman, I know that we all have rights—and none of us deserves to suffer in silence.
We must thank God for the gift of life and trust in Him to guide our decisions and give us the strength to move forward with dignity. At the same time, we must find the courage within ourselves to say no and walk away from toxic and dangerous relationships. I also have nieces, and I feel a deep sense of responsibility to take action and do my part to help end this epidemic.
No man can truly understand the pain we feel every time we are abused. It breaks my heart to know that so many women remain trapped in these circumstances. And although I sometimes feel deep frustration toward men because of this, I know that hatred is not the answer. On the contrary, the answer is to stand firm and say:
"I will never allow you to hurt me again—not ever, and not before it's too late."